tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31651336.post115577919646906155..comments2023-11-27T00:59:44.444-05:00Comments on 2 Moms- It can be done!: Anything but boringWendy and Karenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06884668150706524717noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31651336.post-1155846001963477072006-08-17T16:20:00.000-04:002006-08-17T16:20:00.000-04:00I don't get it. It's people like that that probabl...I don't get it. It's people like that that probably shouldn't have kids. They don't appreciate them. I know if I was blessed with a child I would love every single minute with that child. I see lots of therapy in that kids future. And they worry about gays having children. Who are the majority that are abusing, neglecting and mistreating kids: heterosexuals. God, this makes me so angry. sorry..Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14476059033054104085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31651336.post-1155835093995615062006-08-17T13:18:00.000-04:002006-08-17T13:18:00.000-04:00I'd agree that her thoughts certainly inspire a lo...I'd agree that her thoughts certainly inspire a look at how you view your relationship with your kids. I guess the question I've asked myself so many times so far in our process of trying to have a child is: why do I want a child? There's a part of what she says that doesn't fit in that if she really thinks kids are boring, doesn't really want to be involved in their activities and wants to keep her "adult" life from being interfered with by her kids...why have them at all? Is it a moral imperative that prompted it? Did her husband want kids really badly and she gave in? I get that she says she loves her kids...and I'm sure she does, but it almost seems to me as if she's treating her kids like a job she doesn't really like. Do it..because you have to...but at the end of the day, you leave it behind and don't give it another thought until you have to go back.<BR/><BR/>Is she saying that those parents who do get involved in their kids lives are boring or lacking in their own lives and they only have kids to fill some gap/lack in themselves? No where in her article did she pass judgment on other parents but I think it's an easy leap for a very involved parent to make and take offense at her article.<BR/><BR/>In the end, it's fascinating how the article reads for different people and the intense reactions it has seemed to evoke.<BR/><BR/>- KarenWendy and Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06884668150706524717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31651336.post-1155820359498112442006-08-17T09:12:00.000-04:002006-08-17T09:12:00.000-04:00Interesting. I went and read the article, and read...Interesting. I went and read the article, and read this response as well (http://tinyurl.com/e5ps5). <BR/><BR/>I actually thought the article was refreshing - the central theme to me seemed to be that this woman does not agree with the emerging trend of letting children think that everything revolves around them and having insanely over-programmed lives. <BR/><BR/>She wants to have an adult life and relationship in addition to her children - which I think might result in more well-adjusted kids in the long run. The part about children thinking it's all about them being ill-equipped in the 'real world' is something I believe is very very true. <BR/><BR/>She talks more about avoiding having a child become your career than hating her kids - it seems like by living HER life and not her kids, she thinks she will raise better children. I actually applaud her for recognizing her own limitations - if she's going to be so unhappy at a cricket match, then let someone go who loves being there. The ending sentence is the strongest to me - she's letting her kids know that SHE'S not perfect, that she has limitations ---- I think they'll end up know it's okay if they have limitations, too.wendershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02511465862685227902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31651336.post-1155800588477924162006-08-17T03:43:00.000-04:002006-08-17T03:43:00.000-04:00Having a child is definitely not boring. Granted,...Having a child is definitely not boring. Granted, the newborn pattern of sleep, eat, change, repeat can be tiresome, but it's still not boring. You wonder..."How many times will they spit up this time?!" ;) I have also welcomed becoming "caught up" in my child. He is my greatest joy and I feel the true reason that I was put upon this Earth. I know that the two of you will derive as much pleasure and excitement from your little one as I do from mine...and there is nothing boring about that. <BR/>Love, <BR/>HEthan Barry's Mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07334306171838948004noreply@blogger.com